The Illusion of Control balance coaching feelings Aug 06, 2024

 

 

“When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.” 

—Byron Katie

 

 

 

Control is an illusion. We all know that to be true. We can be diligent about planning, coordinating, and scheduling and even leave a margin...

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The Gift Of Coaching coaching Aug 04, 2024

 

 

You can’t read the label from inside the jar.

 

 

I never saw myself as an athlete. Little League was an indisputable disaster, and my confidence was shaken. I did have a barbell and a bench and started lifting weights as a teenager. It wasn’t a regular hobby,...

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The Power Of Context balance coaching lifestyle Jul 30, 2024

 

  

“Life does not change if you only modify the content,

your life will change if you will dare to alter the context.”

–Santosh Kalwar

 

 

Have you heard the commencement speech given by David Foster Wallace, called This Is Water? I hadn’t....

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Let Go Of Your Story coaching Jul 16, 2024

 

 

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

   Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

What is a story?  When I think of a story, I think of a fairy tale.  An imaginary account that has been concocted for...

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Finding Balance balance family Jul 07, 2024

 

 

Balance does not mean that everything gets equal weighting all the time

 

 

One of the biggest struggles of my adult life has been the elusive idea of work-life balance.  It seems like a simple concept.  First, determine your priorities.  Then, live your...

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The Audible Eye Roll: Reclaiming The Parts Of You That You Don't Like balance coaching Jul 02, 2024

 

 

“Once you accept your flaws, no one can use them against you.”

   Tyrion Lannister, Game of Thrones



 

I like to tell the story about the evening I met my wife.  We were out to dinner with a group of people, and she was sitting across the table...

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Put An End To Your Inner Critic balance coaching feelings Jun 25, 2024

 

 

 

What is this self inside us, this silent observer,

Severe and speechless critic , who can terrorize us

And urge us on to futile activity

And in the end, judge us still more severely

For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?

   T. S. Eliot, The...

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The Dad I Want To Be balance family Jun 11, 2024

 

 

“Being a dad means being there for your pups through thick and thin, teaching them, playing with them, and showing them love every day. It’s the greatest adventure of all.”
ā€•Bandit Heeler

 

 

If you have young children, you might be familiar with the...

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How Do You Value Your Time? balance lifestyle May 28, 2024

 

 

“Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend.”
ā€•Theophrastus

 

 

 

Fact: No one will value your time as much as you do. 

 

 

Time is undoubtedly our most valuable and limited resource.  Every day, so many people and things vie for...

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The Epidemic of Work Dread balance lifestyle May 21, 2024

 

 

 

“Monday is like a math problem.  Add the irritation, subtract the sleep, multiply the problems, divide the happiness.”
ā€•Unknown
 

 

 

Work dread.  You know the feeling even if you didn’t know it had a name.  It is that sensation...

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The Power Of Community coaching lifestyle May 15, 2024

 

 

 

“Alone, we can do little; together, we can do so much.”
ā€•Helen Keller
 

 

 

For all its traumas, one of the most incredible gifts bestowed upon doctors is the community created during medical training.  When I think back to my Internal Medicine...

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Burn It All Down To Create Something New coaching feelings May 07, 2024

 

 

 

“Sometimes you are in the middle of your destiny before you even know it has begun.”
ā€•Sarah Holman
 

 

 

As a native New Yorker, I always thought Chicago was the “Second City” because it was inferior to New York.  I would go out on a...

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