Change Yourself, Change The System balance coaching Nov 19, 2024

 

 

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
― Mahatma Gandhi



 

I stumbled upon the Financial Independence Retirement Early (FIRE) movement when I was extremely frustrated with medicine.  Retirement seemed like the best solution for my physician...

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Unpacking Feelings: Everything You Want Is On The Other Side Of Something You Don't Want To Feel coaching goals Nov 12, 2024

 



Everything you want is on the other side of something you don’t want to feel



Pop culture would have you believe that feeling your feelings is commonplace.  When I was going through my list of possible songs to link to this post, it was clear that people like to talk about (and...

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No More People Pleasing balance coaching Oct 08, 2024

 

 

 People pleasers are liars.  

 

 

The first time I heard that quote, I was a bit shocked.  As a native New Yorker, I have a rather direct manner of speaking, and it feels more natural to just “say it like it is.” My words are often a little...

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Where Are The Physician Satisfaction Metrics? coaching feelings goals Sep 24, 2024

 

 

“The Hospital Will Not Love You Back.”

–Vagabond MD 



During a physician meeting, one of my partners began talking about physician satisfaction.  He said it in a very matter-of-fact way.  He spoke about how our current way of doing things ...

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Comfort Doesn't Change You coaching feelings goals Sep 03, 2024

 

 

“Discomfort is the currency of your dreams.”

--Brooke Castillo

 

 

According to Google, comfort is a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint.  Just reading that makes me feel more relaxed.  Comfort is quiet, warm,...

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The Illusion of Control balance coaching feelings Aug 06, 2024

 

 

“When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.” 

—Byron Katie

 

 

 

Control is an illusion. We all know that to be true. We can be diligent about planning, coordinating, and scheduling and even leave a margin...

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The Gift Of Coaching coaching Aug 04, 2024

 

 

You can’t read the label from inside the jar.

 

 

I never saw myself as an athlete. Little League was an indisputable disaster, and my confidence was shaken. I did have a barbell and a bench and started lifting weights as a teenager. It wasn’t a regular hobby,...

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The Power Of Context balance coaching lifestyle Jul 30, 2024

 

  

“Life does not change if you only modify the content,

your life will change if you will dare to alter the context.”

–Santosh Kalwar

 

 

Have you heard the commencement speech given by David Foster Wallace, called This Is Water? I hadn’t....

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Let Go Of Your Story coaching Jul 16, 2024

 

 

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

   Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

What is a story?  When I think of a story, I think of a fairy tale.  An imaginary account that has been concocted for...

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The Audible Eye Roll: Reclaiming The Parts Of You That You Don't Like balance coaching Jul 02, 2024

 

 

“Once you accept your flaws, no one can use them against you.”

   Tyrion Lannister, Game of Thrones



 

I like to tell the story about the evening I met my wife.  We were out to dinner with a group of people, and she was sitting across the table...

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Put An End To Your Inner Critic balance coaching feelings Jun 25, 2024

 

 

 

What is this self inside us, this silent observer,

Severe and speechless critic , who can terrorize us

And urge us on to futile activity

And in the end, judge us still more severely

For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?

   T. S. Eliot, The...

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The Power Of Community coaching lifestyle May 15, 2024

 

 

 

“Alone, we can do little; together, we can do so much.”
―Helen Keller
 

 

 

For all its traumas, one of the most incredible gifts bestowed upon doctors is the community created during medical training.  When I think back to my Internal Medicine...

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